The Mistake Men Make

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We hear the word compromise a lot when there is talk about making relationships work.  It's the panacea to appease the person who may not be getting what they want.  Hmmm.  It sounds very appealing and workable. 



Yet, it's one of most crippling and deadly mistakes that a man can make!

When Kim and I had our fourth child, she told me that she didn't want to go on the pill again.  She suggested tubal ligation.  It's a procedure where the female's fallopian tubes are tied, thus preventing further pregnancy.  Also, we didn't want to seem like ignorant people who were just having a bunch of children we couldn't afford.  Without prayer, I agreed.  Even after the obstetrician tried to persuade us not to do it.  He told us that we were young, and God forbid, the child died, we would not be able to get pregnant again.  We didn't budge.  We were adamant about our decision.  Well, our fourth child died several months after birth. 


And, oh the pain and regret!

Kim was not the fault.  I was.  I compromised to appease. 



Like Adam eating the fruit of The Knowledge of Good and Evil; like Abraham  copulating with Hagar the maid, I gave in. 


When a man compromises his authority, it always, without fail, leads to disaster. 


Adam, Adam where art thou? 

The voice of the Lord is still calling.  Eve is not responsible…you are!  The head of every woman is the man and the head of man is Christ

When a man obeys his wife, he is out of order.  A man should do well to listen to his wife's good advice; she is designed to provide/help.  However, women are to obey their husbands, and when there is an impasse, he must go to his head…Christ for grace and wisdom.  You see, when it comes to major family decisions, getting everyone on board doesn't require  compromise…it requires much wisdom and prayer!



"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God."  (1 Corinthians 11:3)
"A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, vigilant, sober, of good behaviour, given to hospitality, apt to teach; Not given to wine, no striker, not greedy of filthy lucre; but patient, not a brawler, not covetous; One that ruleth well his own house, having his children in subjection with all gravity; (For if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God?"  (1 Timothy 3:2-5)

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