When Leslie, a male fellow coworker, at the bank that I worked told me to stop sleeping around with those dirty girls, I looked at him with scorn.
Who was he talking to?
Besides, I liked the feeling of being able to control and manipulate a woman to give up her body.
Both the chase, and, catching the prey where a thrill.
That was true untill a few weeks later when I was suffering from a venereal infection. The foul scent coupled with painful urination, not to mention the embarrassnent of daily getting shots of tetracycline in my butt from my doctor were a good moral and history lesson.
I paid the price for my insolence and ignorance.
God spoke to me. I didn't know his voice and refused to listen.
Like my mother used to say with a belt in her hand,
"Since you can't hear, you will feel!"
Such is the case of most men today. Fornication and living together without marriage is now acceptable behaviour. Twenty or thirty years ago, it was frowned on. Yet today, as God withdraws his Holy Spirit, people are comfortable with sin.
However, the consequences of sinful behavior, especially fornication, are still severe.
"Marriage is honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." (Hebrews 13:4)
Men who fornicate, like I did, still run the risk of painful and deadly infections like syphilis, HIV, or Herpes. Furthermore, and most important, when we fornicate, we inadvertently attach ourselves to the devil.
"He that committeth sin is of the devil; for the devil sinneth from the beginning. For this purpose the Son of God was manifested, that he might destroy the works of the devil." (1 John 3:8)
Fornication or sex without marriage is identical to using drugs. You keep chasing that first high for the rest of your life... Delilah, the demon of lust, always promises heated passion and sex galore but it's all a lie. Like Samson who wound up in a Philistine jail with eyes gorged out, men who fornicate meet the same sad fate.
If you think this is make-believe, do a Google search of Michael Misick a former prime minister of Turks and Caucos Islands. He has now been released from jail in Brazil. Sexual licentiousness never pays. This is real. This is true. Men who fornicate usually end up with unwanted children, child support, crazy girlfriends, disease and always heartache.
You will be judged by God.
I learned the hard way but was still given grace.
God made sex for marriage. The key is finding a woman of virtue who you can trust with your heart. Trust is the foundation of all relationships and especially our relationship with God. God said it, we believe it, that settles it. Don't be asinine. You can't build a relationship on sex.
Promiscuity never pays dividends; only pain and death.
"Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well. Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets.
Let them be only thine own, and not strangers' with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.
And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger? For the ways of man are before the eyes of the LORD, and he pondereth all his goings. His own iniquities shall take the wicked himself, and he shall be holden with the cords of his sins. He shall die without instruction; and in the greatness of his folly he shall go astray." (Proverbs 5:15-23)