Updated: May 13, 2020
Ask Marriage Mechanics
Dear Marriage Mechanics,
My husband complains that I am not submissive because I spend my money on my siblings who are fatherless a few months after my marriage. I am the eldest among eight girls. My siblings supported and helped with my education.
I have explained that to him but he doesn't get it. Furthermore, he sends money to his siblings. Please give me some solid advice.
No doubt this is a very difficult and challenging situation. Nonetheless, we can't move in fear. Fear is the biggest obstacle to faith and obedience. F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real. This means that what appears to be true and real, isn't.
Whereas I know you want to help your siblings, however, obedience is always better than sacrifice. After much prayer, have a good discussion with your husband. Obviously, he is being selfish by giving to his family. Nonetheless, if he still says no, obey. Remember, God is always in control. And, we should never repay evil with evil. We overcome evil with good.
Submission and obedience are keys to the heart of God. He will not let you down or fail you. God has another plan to provide for your siblings if your husband is obstinate. Or, he will step in to bring your husband in order. It takes faith to follow and obey God's word and the reason few do it.
Remember, prayer changes things and when God doesn't change our situation, he changes us. Would this be easy? No. To the natural mind, to submit is crazy and stupid. But, we can't live according to people, Satan, fear, or doubt. Listening to the wrong voices causes confusion and ends marriages. We must disconnect from people and this world system to experience the unlimited and All-powerful God. We must live by faith. Faith moves God to action. Choose wisely!!
"Likewise, ye wives, be in subjection to your own husbands; that, if any obey not the word, they also may without the word be won by the conversation of the wives." (1 Peter 3:1)