When my wife had her first sexual experience after marriage she said, "Thank God I didn't slip up before marriage." We had courted for eighteen months. It was very hard but we made it.
Sex is equivalent to taking a highly addictive drug like cocaine or heroin. You can spend the rest of your life...chasing that high. Nonetheless, as great as sex maybe, a woman needs much more. We made it without sex because we had something better.
We both had a deep abiding faith in God and she knew her husband loved God. That was her security and her attraction in the relationship.
A man who loves God will nurture his wife. She needs that much more than sex. She needs to feel secure.
She needs a call during the day to let her know your mind is on her.
I would pick up her favorite item from the supermarket.
Take her on vacation.
Affectionately play with her.
I supported anything she participated in.
She was not a sex toy and product of lust.
She was flesh of my flesh bone of my bone to be loved and cherished.
"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered." (1Peter 3:7)
"Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it" (Ephesians 5:25)