ASK MARRIAGE MECHANICS ****What is the significance of marriage vows?****
Dear Marriage Mechanics,
I was always curious about marriage vows. Most marriages end in divorce, so, why do people say them when they have no intention of keeping them?
Thank you for a very interesting and thought-provoking question. Sadly, marriage for most people, is simply an access to unlimited sex, passion, and romance. Few, understand the magnitude of what they are doing or have done.
So, saying marriage vows, to them, is simply an exercise and chore on the marital to-do list. However, vows are a very, very serious thing. They are the foundation of marriage. It is the meaning of marriage. When you say your marriage vows, you are verbalizing what you have done when you said "I do."
You see, when you take someone to be your husband or wife, God supernaturally joins you to that person making you one flesh. God does the joining and it's impossible to undo what God has done. Hence the vows, "for better for worse, for richer for poorer, in sickness and in health, for as long as both shall live." That is the covenant and law of marriage. It's also the reason that remarriage to another person after divorce is sin. Marriage can only be ended by death. This is the reason marriage is not a mistake that you can make. We only live once. Choose wisely!!
"For the LORD, the God of Israel, saith that he hateth putting away: for one covereth violence with his garment, saith the LORD of hosts: therefore take heed to your spirit, that ye deal not treacherously." (Malachi 2:16)
"And I say unto you, Whosoever shall put away his wife, except it be for fornication, and shall marry another, committeth adultery: and whoso marrieth her which is put away doth commit adultery.". (Matthew 19:9)
"So then if, while her husband liveth, she be married to another man, she shall be called an adulteress: but if her husband be dead, she is free from that law; so that she is no adulteress, though she be married to another man.". (Romans 7:3)