ASK MARRIAGE MECHANICS
Dear Marriage Mechanics,
This has been going on in my marriage from day one. My wife likes to wear skimpy clothes.
Her breast and thighs are never properly covered and her makeup is excessive. I told her about it but she gets angry and resists my advice.
What's the next step?
Signed My Skimpy Wife
Dear My Skimpy Wife,
If she was that way from day one, then you got what you paid for. Maybe it excited you, fed your ego, and made you feel admired to show-off your sexy wife. But, as usual, when we fully unwrapp the package, we realize it isn't what we thought.
What a person wears usually reflex their mood, mindset, and what is going on in the inside. A person who is struggling to clothe themselves properly and dresses seductively is suffering from some form of sexual lust. Lust is an indiscriminate sexual spirit that can't be satisfied.
Coupled with that, she may also be struggling with deep and hidden insecurities and need to be noticed. This, of course, is a very toxic combination. She is attracting the wrong people and sending the wrong message every time she is in public.
All women should dress appropriately and especially a married woman. A good woman will advertise her heart, not her breast, thighs, or buttocks. She is only to be bare for her husband to express intimate love. In the same vein, we should never allow celebrities or any ungodly person to dictate our dress code. There is never anything good in the flesh. Life is much much more than jumping in bed and having sex with someone. The world needs lots of love not lust.
This is going to very difficult and will require much patience because you agreed with this mindset prior to marriage. Your wife needs lots of love and patience. I suggest counseling with a seasoned counselor or pastor; and, of course, much prayers to cast this ungodly spirit out of her life.
"In like manner also, that women adorn themselves in modest apparel, with shamefacedness and sobriety; not with broided hair, or gold, or pearls, or costly array; But (which becomeh women professing godliness) with good works." (1 Timothy 2:9-10)