The Bible describes being married to a bad woman as having cancer; you rot from the inside out. A woman who is stubborn, disrespectful, manipulative and controlling, sucks the very life out of her husband leaving him to suffocate in impotence and insecurity.
This selection is usually the result of a man looking on the outside, and not kicking the tires and checking the inside. Pretty, sexy and smart, or most deadly, chosen over humble and virtuous.
But, if you are here, don't give up!
Jesus is still on the throne and you do have leverage being the man. Getting loud, trying to physically beat her, getting a divorce, are not the right routes. You have to get out, opposite, to the way you got in.
Your pride and arrogance got you in.
Only humility can get you out!
You still must love your wife. You need the wisdom of God to combat the spirit of control and domination. God will give you wisdom, if you humble yourself, to the know the difference between good advice and manipulation; being led and leading.
Be patient...be humble, prayer changes things and when God doesn't change our situation he changes us!
"Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according to knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered." (1Peter 3:7)