Ask Marriage Mechanics
Dear Marriage Mechanics
My fiance is demanding that I either give my son to my parents or his biological father. We have been seeing each other for about a year and we want to get married.
My son is eleven and my ex is not really an influence in his life or a regular financial contributor. This request is hard, but, should I give in?
Signed My Baby Daddy
Dear My Baby Daddy,
A woman with a child is a package deal. Furthermore, marriage makes two people one. Everything becomes ours. Childcare should be discussed aforehand to eliminate insecurities regarding issues with the biological father i.e. communication, financial, discipline, etc, etc. from day one.
In addition, true love, and a faithful man, like Joseph who accepted Jesus as his stepson, will love you and what belongs to you. This man has revealed his heart. It's selfish. It's all about him. Your emotional attraction can not, will not, carry this relationship. It's not real.
I suggest you confront him and end the charade. Real love is without dissimulation. This means it's not partial and picky. Real love loves all people. Your son deserves real love and not resentment and rejection.
"Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honour preferring one another." (Roman 12:9-10)
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