Dear Marriage Mechanics,
My wife is a very beautiful and dedicated woman. She satisfies me in bed and takes care of household duties.
Last week, something really really crazy happened. I accidentally picked her cellphone up for mine and saw some very lewd sexual texts sent to a guy she told me was her old boyfriend.
This has me freaked out and I'm very depressed. I haven't told her. I need help.
I feel your pain and disappointment. Few things in life are more hurtful than betrayal. Nonetheless, you have to pull it together and fight for your marriage.
Forgiveness is a very hard pill to swallow but it's the only antidote for transgressions of a spouse. People who hold on to unforgiveness and seek revenge are like a person who drinks poison but hopes the other person dies.
You must confront your wife and prepare for the fall-out. Most people can't handle the truth especially if they have lived in the dark for a long time. She lives in the dark and has closed doors that she opens to no one.
Find a reputable and seasoned marriage counselor or pastor who will help you with the process. Obviously, there is a sexual spirit in her life. Spirits, especially sexual spirits, do not leave easy from properties they squat on. So, much prayer is needed! And, remember, love always prevails.
You can't lose with love...it never fails!
"Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him. And if he trespass against thee seven times in a day, and seven times in a day turn again to thee, saying, I repent; thou shalt forgive him." (Luke 17:3-4)