A DIVORCED SINGLE MOTHER WROTE...

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This week's story:  A DIVORCED SINGLE MOTHER WROTE... I am writing to you in order to make someone understand that it's good to appreciate our partners despite their flaws. I am 32 years of age. My ex-husband and I dated for 6 years.  We were best friends.  I waited until he completed college and started work before we decided to marry. My family and his family then met.  We got married and had a son. (7 years old now). My husband was short-tempered at times but our problems started when I wanted to make him feel that he couldn't control me. Every time we argued, I would pack my bags, go to my family and vent.  My sisters would phone my husband and shout at him. I would always dare him that if he wished, he could divorce me but I really never wanted divorce.  I just had pride and I never wanted to look like a weak woman in his eyes. One day I pushed him so hard that for the first time he beat me and locked me outside. I went to my family, my family took him to the police.  I did this every time I looked like I was being abused!  But to be honest, I used to abuse my husband emotionally. He was arrested and detained.  I was asked by his family to withdraw the case. I felt that what I was doing was wrong. My husband was never a violent man, he did what he did because I pushed him to the wall of which he openly knelt down and apologized.  I withdrew the charge, and we reconciled.  After three months, I packed my bags after a small issue and he remained alone. After two days, I received a call that he was in the hospital.  My family told me that I shouldn't go there because it would look like I was begging him.   Furthermore, my sisters believed he was feigning the illness.  All this time, people felt sorry for me like I was the one being abused. He spent a week in the hospital, after he came out, I received a divorce summon.  I wanted to say no to the divorce, but, because I felt this pride, I wanted him to change his mind and beg me.  I called him and said he would get the divorce because I lived like I was in hell. When we went to court, I wanted to make him pay, so I told the court that I needed his properties to be shared.  To my surprise, he openly told the court that whatever he and had I acquired together, should be given to me, all he wanted was a divorce. We were divorced in 2009 July.  Now, my husband is married, whilst l am here wasted!  My family members are gossiping about me.  I depend on what my ex-husband gives to my son for survival.

I know I wasted my marriage.I am here telling all wives that they should be careful how they get advise.  Don't be cheated.  Don't entertain family interference in your marriage my dear reader.  Even my young sisters are much more respected than me.

Those who encouraged me to get divorced are always teasing and bad-mouthing me.  Please ladies, be vigilant in your marriage. 

Thought it wise to share my story to save your marriage. 

There is no benefit in pride for nothing. SOMETIMES IT'S NOT THE MAN'S FAULT AT ALL, IT'S YOUR PRIDE, & THE PEOPLE YOU ALLOWED TO ADVISE YOU.  SO BE WISE AND VIGILANT IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

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